I have been a parent for 23 years, and the first 10 was to a son. Raising him was easy. It's my girls that I worry about. Maybe it's just me, but back when I was a tween/teenager, I didn't notice a lot of girls trying to be something they weren't just to get a guy (read: a hoe). If it was happening, I guess I just didn't see it. I noticed that girls 'flirted'. I think flirting and coming off as someone who's very sexual are two different things.
My girls have always been taught to stay true to who they are. If a guy doesn't like them because of it, then he was never worth it in the first place. Mini-Me has always gotten frustrated with this. She and her closest friend, M., know that the reasons they never had boyfriends is because they refuse to succumb to that. When Mini-Me got a boyfriend about a month ago (which will come to play later in another post somewhere), it was a refreshing change to see a boy who actually wanted a good girl. Guess what? He's a nice boy, too!
Mini-Me and her friends seem to gravitate to the bad boys. But I understand that. I did, too, except it took me YEARS to figure it out and learned the hard way. Now she has a close friend who is starting to act like a hoe. It's pissing her off. She knows this girl is not one, but the girl keeps doing things to the point where some of their peers actually call her a slut. I just don't want Mini-Me to be labeled as such due to guilt by association. Mini-Me also hates losing friends to this. There are days when I want to shake some sense into the friend.
With all the stuff that's been going on in Mini-Me's life as of late and her love of her friends, this kind of stuff affects her greatly. I know that I have got to let her handle obstacles, drama, or whatever else comes her way, on her own. I know Mini-Me hates when I talk to her, because she thinks I 'don't understand' or 'you don't know what it's like'. Thing is...I do. No matter how many times she may tell me those things. As her mother, I'm going to keep talking to my daughter and keep listening, because it's obvious no one's talking or listening to her friend. This is where I'm grateful that Mini-Me has a decent head on her shoulders.
How do you think you guys would feel and what would you do if your daughter's friends started turning out like this??













