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Here's a conversation that went down two days ago:
Mini-Me: Dad never does any of the things he says he will.
Me: What do you mean?
Mini-Me: He says that he will take us camping and hasn't. He says that he'll take us fishing and hasn't. He said that he'll take us to visit grandpa (his dad who my girls have never met) and hasn't. Says we would be able to go swimming at *Casino in Vegas* and hasn't. Said we'd see Kung Fu Panda and we didn't.
Me: *silence*
I really didn't know what to tell her, but I think she's starting to figure things out on her own.
12 hours ago
10 comments:
He's blown it all by himself!
yeah, i agree with ake.
You did the right thing, even though it's frustrating to keep quiet. Maybe mini-me should ask her father these questions?
oh man, i have so been there. and yes, it is very difficult to come up with a response to such insight.
Smart aren't they! I agree with KB, "ask your father"! I'm back, missed our chats to much.
You could always remind them of the things he has followed through on(hopefully that list is longer). You could start with Dad promised to put a roof over our head, food on our table etc.)
With seven kids of my own, I'm sure they could come up with quite a list themselves. We do not allow them to hold us accountable for promises. In fact we don't feel the need to make promises. Instead we use the "If it happens it happens" approach. Life is not fair and it's better you learn that now.
There is nothing worse than a handful of screaming kids in the grocery store screaming "BUT YOU PROMISED".
Just the other day we heard this very thing. A mother in the grocery store trying to get her screaming newborn out to the car as her toddlers yelled "but you promised.
My 6 yr old looked up at me and said "That Mommy shouldn't have promised, should she Dad". I said that's right honey, Life happens, plans change and everybody needs to deal with that calmly.
Just a few thoughts from a busy Dad trying to rustle up a bit of sanity along the way.
Hey thanks for coming by my blog and informing me of those important facts.
I guess I should have read a bit more of your blog before commenting. That is a situation that I have no experience with.
I have to say that all these other comments probably offer better advice then I had first thought.
I'll have to blog about this as I would love to learn a thing or two from others in your situation.
Ciara...
You absolutely did the right thing!
Actions speak louder than words..
You are a great Mom...xo
thx everyone for all your kind words, i appreciate it. i have told her before to ask her dad and talk about things that bother her, but she says that she can't open up to him. she says, 'he's not like you mom.'
Ouch. Sorry for the tough line of questioning from Mini-Me. But I don't know... is silence worse than outright lies?? ;-)
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